Many Cameroonians consider virginity as the treasured prize a woman gives her husband on their wedding night. For this reason, society has proposed various methods by which a woman's virginity can be confirmed or ruled out. At the top of the list, is bleeding with first intercourse. However, is bleeding with first intercourse a true test of virginity?
FIRST THINGS FIRST
1) What Is a Hymen?
The stuff of legend and lore in many Cameroonian cultures, a hymen is a thin, fleshy membrane that surrounds the opening of the vagina. This body part comes in all shapes, although, the most common hymen is shaped like half a moon. Mind you, the hymen doesn't completely obstruct the vagina, rather, it has a hole big enough for period blood to flow out.
2) What Does It Mean To Be a Virgin?
Cambridge English dictionary defines virginity as "the state of never having had sex," and Wikipedia defines it as "the state of a person who has never engaged in sexual intercourse." More to the point, in non-technical language, a virgin is someone who has never had penetrative (penis in vagina) sex.
MUST A LADY BLEED WITH FIRST INTERCOURSE?
A woman may bleed when she has penetrative sex for the first time because of her hymen breaking. More explicitly, the hymen contains tiny blood vessels, which may break when the hymen is stretched and ruptured during sexual intercourse. This explains why some women bleed when they have sex for the first time. However, bleeding with first intercourse is not the norm. Here is why:
To begin with, the state of one's hymen has little to do with sexual activity. Worded differently, many activities, excluding sexual intercourse, can stretch or rupture the hymen. Examples of such activities include the following: riding a bike, doing sports, putting something in the vagina (such as a tampon, finger, or sex toy), to name but a few.
Additionally, during sexual intercourse, if the hymen is only stretched (not ruptured) and its blood vessels left intact, then, there will be no bleeding. This can also explain the absence of bleeding with first intercourse.
To top it all, some women are born with so little hymenal tissue that it seems like they do not have a hymen at all. What's more, in rare cases, some women or girls are born with no hymenal tissue. Therefore, we do not expect them to bleed with first intercourse.
Must women bleed when having sex for the first time? Well, the answer is "NO."
CAN VIRGINITY BE TESTED MEDICALLY?
To tell you the truth, there is no true virginity test. The thing is, virginity tests are inaccurate. The reason for this is, while the presence of an intact hymen may spell virginity, the absence of an intact hymen does not indicate that a woman has been "dis-virgined." In other words, this test typically involves a check for the presence of an intact hymen, on the flawed assumption that only sexual intercourse can tear it. Well, as mentioned before, physical activities (other than sexual intercourse) can stretch the hymen. What's more, the hymen might even be absent at birth.
CONCLUSION
Not every woman bleeds with first intercourse, therefore, bleeding with first intercourse is not a true test of virginity. As a matter of fact, with regard to ruling out virginity, virginity tests are wildly inaccurate and unreliable. So, it is unfair and inconsiderate to subject women to these standards.
Dr. Ndifor Judex.